I had a dream last night. It wasn't a nightmare although it wasn't a pleasant dream. It was more of a strange dream than anything else. Now normally when I dream and can remember it, it seems to be about places I've been and situations I've been in rather than people. OK, I did have a VERY erotic dream about my sister-in-law recently, brought on I think because we were going to visit her and her new husband. Well, that and the fact that when she was a teenager she delighted in teasing me knowing I wouldn't do anything about it. I mean when she was visiting us, she's supposed to be in bed asleep while I'm relaxing laying on the couch in male boxer underwear watching TV and suddenly you've got wide awake teen in panties and bra laying down on the couch in front of you shoving her ass back into to you and giggling. Two thin layer of cloth separate you and she's shoving sating clad buttock right into your groin! Or she slides past you in the kitchen making sure either her breasts and vagina or her ass gets rubbed against you. And NO, nothing ever happened although I wanted to call her bluff and scare the daylights out of her. But I digress. Normally, as I said, my dreams are places or situations, not people. But this dream was about people and, to be specific, it was a cuckold dream about my wife and a boyfriend. I didn't dream why or how but my wife, myself and the guy were in a bedroom at my grandmother's house of all things. Somehow in the dream they kept trying to get me to leave the bedroom so they could have sex but I didn't want to leave the room because I didn't trust him and didn't like him. I did finally leave the room and as I was closing the door, they were already in the bed fucking. For some reason, there seemed to be a party going on in my grandmother's house and I had to explain to people that my wife was talking to "her friend" she hadn't seen in a long time. About then I woke up. I have no idea what triggered this dream since she does not have a new boyfriend. She has been seeing all three of her current boyfriends for quite a long time, the least of which is about a year and a half. Sure she's had a few one night stands but still nothing that should trigger this dream. Plus the fact I have liked all of her boyfriends I've ever met. Sure, some more than others and a couple of them we occasionally go out with to dinner. Maybe someone would say that it means I secretly resent all of her men but I can't say that would be accurate because I don't resent them. To me, if it makes her happy, then I'm happy. Anybody got any ideas of what would cause that dream?
I really would like thoughts and comments on the dream please.
Sounds like there is a glimmer of resentment to me. It's normal. Even if it's not about the sex, it could just as easily be about the emotional connection that is being focused on someone else other than you. This is all of course from a layman's perspective as I am not trained or even educated in psychology, but I do have a decent understanding of how I feel when my partner spends time with someone else during a time where I may feel a little less emotionally fulfilled.
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